12 Self Acceptance Exercises

  1. Celebrate your strengths. Make a list of all the hardships you’ve overcome, all the goals you’ve accomplished, all the connections you’ve made, and all the lives you’ve touched for the better. Keep it close by, review it frequently, and add to it often.
  2. Hang around with supportive people who build your self-worth and acceptance. People who accept you as you are and believe in you. Not people who reinforce negative self talk or make negative comments.
  3. Forgive yourself easily and often.
  4. Don’t compare yourself with others. You were meant to be you and no-one else but you. Don’t rate yourself against others.
  5. See your mistakes as opportunities for learning. Accept your imperfections, limitations and mistakes as part of your humanness.
  6. Thank the inner critic and then find 5 pieces of evidence that prove the inner critic is wrong. The inner critic is usually generalizing eg “I’m so stupid”. Recall 5 past situations where you were intelligent or clever.
  7. Compare your self now with how you were years ago; see what and how you have learnt, grown and matured.
  8. Treat yourself like your own best friend.
  9. Ask yourself “What would someone who loves themselves decide to do right now?”
  10. Act according to your morals and highest values.
  11. Self acceptance means you accept how you are now. You still have aspirations to improve, not because you are flawed and should improve but because you want to enjoy the rewards of personal growth – greater happiness, peace of mind and well- being.
  12. Validate your feelings. We have feelings to give us messages about what’s going on for us and sometimes to tell us what needs to change for our well-being.